An "Emily" Post

When it comes to cell phone use in public places I will sometimes remind total strangers that no one really wants to hear about their latest fight with their boyfriend, recent doctor's visit or worse. It has to be a really loud and obnoxious extended conversation for me to finally pipe up and say something, but I will do so as politely as possible when I feel it's needed. Such was the case recently as a young woman was sharing the intimate details of her latest STI. I was studying in a Panera Bread and she was half way across the room talking veraciously on her cell phone about the recent infection her cheating boyfriend bestowed upon her. The conversation was clearly upsetting the other patrons, and since there was no way to escape her conversation without leaving their meals behind and exiting the restaurant. I quietly went by the gal's table and whispered, "You may want to talk a little quieter." Almost on cue, she said, "Oh my gosh, I'm sorry." And then she stood up and went outside to finish her conversation in a more private fashion. Sometimes I think we're all guilty of not realizing how our conversations may be affecting those around us, strangers or not, but clearly some conversations are best left totally private.

Answering machines are a joke! They are annoying and outdated and remind me of my parents and grandparents. Most people who still have them that I know of, only use them to screen calls and seldom actually listen to any messages left for them. If I reach an answering machine, I hang up and hope to connect with them another time.

I think depending on the number of callers on a conference call, it could be that there are few enough participants that once  we introduce ourself on the call, it would seem odd to keep announcing who we are each time you speak. Also, if we're going to speak to anyone other than those on the conference call or if there is anything generating noise around us that we cannot quiet, it is absolutely critical that we place our phone on mute and speakerphone unless we are going to be speaking. Otherwise, it's best to reschedule the conference call to when it can be void of distractions and background noise.

Faxes are a bit outdated now with scanning and email capabilities, but should when I do have to fax I like to call ahead and let the recipient know to expect it, and I only fax what is absolutely necessary. Otherwise, I view unexpected faxes as the equivalent of spamming, and I have never found it necessary to fax or call anyone for business after normal business hours unless all parties involved realize that it is necessary.

I prefer to keep a pleasant, short and welcoming voicemail message with a simple ring tone and basic screen names so that I don't have to concern myself whether the incoming call is personal or for business. If I want to be more personal and creative I save it to sending texts, pictures, or leaving messages on others' phones.