Love Lost...

Interestingly, I have actually done the reverse of the question posed in this week’s discussion: “Have you ever eliminated someone by using a sociological or pre-interaction cue only to reconsider them based on interaction and cognitive cues?”

I have been single almost a decade now. I have come close to remarrying twice. In both relationships, it was interaction and cognitive cues that initially brought us to have such an intense bond that we considered marriage.

All the while, in both relationships we lacked the sociological (demographic) cues as we lived thousand of miles apart, and in the end distance played a pivotal role in the dissolving of the relationship.

Of course, we knew early on that distance was a challenge, but we felt that our amazing interaction and cognitive connection would bring us to be able to resolve the distance challenge and carry us through to our “happily-ever-after.”

That was not the case. We were both entrenched in our communities, businesses, and families so that our bond did not penetrate the challenge and bring either of us to submitting to moving across country. It was heartbreaking for both of us, but it was also very realistic decision and one that I believe prevented either of us resenting having submitted and left life as we knew it.